Positive Parenting and Gifted Children

Sunday, October 2, 2016

Hot off the Press! Parenting Young Gifted Children (Book)


Parenting a young gifted child can be challenging.  What seems like blessings in any child can become problematic in the intense and asynchronous gifted child.  Without knowledge of social and emotional issues of gifted children, adults can misinterpret common gifted traits and behaviors as flaws or pathology to be diagnosed and "cured."  Parenting Young Gifted Children provides readers with practical information about young gifted children (behaviors, traits, and characteristics), along with research backed parenting theories, approaches, and tools.   This edition includes a bonus section with information and strategies for emotional intensities.  Combining current research with hands-on examples, this book offers readers insight, understanding, clarifications, and strategies for parenting young gifted children.

Friday, January 8, 2016

Exploring the Many Aspects of Mercy in Parenting

2016 is the Year of Mercy
Merciful Parenting

The word mercy encompasses kindness, forgiveness, thankfulness, empathy, and compassion.  All of the attitudes and approaches necessary in positive parenting.

Join us in the Parenting, Positive Parenting and More G+ community and discuss Mercy and how it relates to and applies to parenting.  https://plus.google.com/communities/107574248517790961006

Every other month, we will turn our focus to another aspect of Mercy in Parenting.  Need something to write about?  Join us and post your thoughts and blogs on the topics in our community.  I will be blogging about these concepts here and sharing in the community.  All shares that encompass a positive parenting theme are welcome.

January/February:  What does Mercy mean to you and how does it relate to Parenting?
March/April:  Empathy.  What makes Empathy an important skill in Parenting?  How is Empathy different than Sympathy?
May/June:  Compassion.  What role does Compassion play in Parenting?  How do you practice compassionate parenting?
July/August:  Forgiveness.  How is Forgiveness a two way street (both a way to give and receive)?
September/October:  Thankfulness.  What ways do you feel and show Gratitude within your own family?  Do you consciously include a gratitude ritual in your home?
November/December:  Kindness.  What does it mean to be an accepting and generous parent?

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Non-neurotypical....Gifted is neurodiverse

I had a professional in my field in a public place ask me.... "are you gifted," while exploring and learning more about his program of identity formation in gifted.  And, I paused.  When asked if I was talented....I said "absolutely, I have talents" (many of us do, if not all of us have talents).  And this brought back many thoughts about this journey with giftedness and the gifted population.

Why the pause?  I paused because of the politics around the word "gifted."  I filtered my response through the lens of what the state of Illinois, and many others define as "gifted."  Actually, I took a great pause as I was filtering through many different concepts of the word gifted, even the context in which I was asked this question (it was taking up a lot of my mental attention, so to me, it seemed as though there was a large pause, until I heard...."your filtering").  And I thought.....of course I am.  Gifted is a splintered and marginalized group.

Examples of thoughts that were going through my mind:
was I academically talented as a child?
did I get all As?
I don't believe that the academically talented definition of gifted is the holistic definition of gifted...
what is your definition of gifted, then I'll let you know if I meet it, or agree with it....
are you asking about the Columbus Group definition?
what about intensity?
what about sensitivity?
what about asynchrony?
and on it filtered through social, academic, political, interpersonal, and intrapersonal contexts.

Gifted means so many different things in so many different contexts, which is why I believe that many gifted children and their families are marginalized.  Gifted to many in the educational field means academically talented, and in the state of Illinois, gifted only means those talented in academics, which is why I believe that the population is splintered.  I will tell you straight out, I don't agree with the talent only definition as a holistic definition of gifted, and wish that we would just call that talented.

So, after a few repeated questions about "are you gifted," I responded "I'm non-neurotypical and the majority of my clients are non-neurotypical."  And there are good aspects of this neurodiversity and challenging aspects of this neurodiversity.

Through this journey with giftedness and the gifted population, I have rested on the belief that Gifted is non-neurotypical with some factors that usually transcend across the population (ex: asynchrony, intensity).  In some contexts (Columbus Group, SENG, Gifted Homeschoolers) we would call this Gifted.  Non-neurotypical means that they attend, process, filter, perceive, connect, create (and so forth).....differently than the "normative group" in which most institutional and social policies are created.  Non-neurotypical means that gifted children often do need "modifications in parenting, teaching, and counseling," (Columbus Group, 1991). 

So when asked, "are you gifted" my answer is, "I am non-neurotypical."

Picture from Human Connectome Project