Positive Parenting and Gifted Children

Friday, January 8, 2016

Exploring the Many Aspects of Mercy in Parenting

2016 is the Year of Mercy
Merciful Parenting

The word mercy encompasses kindness, forgiveness, thankfulness, empathy, and compassion.  All of the attitudes and approaches necessary in positive parenting.

Join us in the Parenting, Positive Parenting and More G+ community and discuss Mercy and how it relates to and applies to parenting.  https://plus.google.com/communities/107574248517790961006

Every other month, we will turn our focus to another aspect of Mercy in Parenting.  Need something to write about?  Join us and post your thoughts and blogs on the topics in our community.  I will be blogging about these concepts here and sharing in the community.  All shares that encompass a positive parenting theme are welcome.

January/February:  What does Mercy mean to you and how does it relate to Parenting?
March/April:  Empathy.  What makes Empathy an important skill in Parenting?  How is Empathy different than Sympathy?
May/June:  Compassion.  What role does Compassion play in Parenting?  How do you practice compassionate parenting?
July/August:  Forgiveness.  How is Forgiveness a two way street (both a way to give and receive)?
September/October:  Thankfulness.  What ways do you feel and show Gratitude within your own family?  Do you consciously include a gratitude ritual in your home?
November/December:  Kindness.  What does it mean to be an accepting and generous parent?

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Non-neurotypical....Gifted is neurodiverse

I had a professional in my field in a public place ask me.... "are you gifted," while exploring and learning more about his program of identity formation in gifted.  And, I paused.  When asked if I was talented....I said "absolutely, I have talents" (many of us do, if not all of us have talents).  And this brought back many thoughts about this journey with giftedness and the gifted population.

Why the pause?  I paused because of the politics around the word "gifted."  I filtered my response through the lens of what the state of Illinois, and many others define as "gifted."  Actually, I took a great pause as I was filtering through many different concepts of the word gifted, even the context in which I was asked this question (it was taking up a lot of my mental attention, so to me, it seemed as though there was a large pause, until I heard...."your filtering").  And I thought.....of course I am.  Gifted is a splintered and marginalized group.

Examples of thoughts that were going through my mind:
was I academically talented as a child?
did I get all As?
I don't believe that the academically talented definition of gifted is the holistic definition of gifted...
what is your definition of gifted, then I'll let you know if I meet it, or agree with it....
are you asking about the Columbus Group definition?
what about intensity?
what about sensitivity?
what about asynchrony?
and on it filtered through social, academic, political, interpersonal, and intrapersonal contexts.

Gifted means so many different things in so many different contexts, which is why I believe that many gifted children and their families are marginalized.  Gifted to many in the educational field means academically talented, and in the state of Illinois, gifted only means those talented in academics, which is why I believe that the population is splintered.  I will tell you straight out, I don't agree with the talent only definition as a holistic definition of gifted, and wish that we would just call that talented.

So, after a few repeated questions about "are you gifted," I responded "I'm non-neurotypical and the majority of my clients are non-neurotypical."  And there are good aspects of this neurodiversity and challenging aspects of this neurodiversity.

Through this journey with giftedness and the gifted population, I have rested on the belief that Gifted is non-neurotypical with some factors that usually transcend across the population (ex: asynchrony, intensity).  In some contexts (Columbus Group, SENG, Gifted Homeschoolers) we would call this Gifted.  Non-neurotypical means that they attend, process, filter, perceive, connect, create (and so forth).....differently than the "normative group" in which most institutional and social policies are created.  Non-neurotypical means that gifted children often do need "modifications in parenting, teaching, and counseling," (Columbus Group, 1991). 

So when asked, "are you gifted" my answer is, "I am non-neurotypical."

Picture from Human Connectome Project

Monday, May 19, 2014

May Parenting Gifted Children Link-Up and a few Thank Yous

hosted by Gruener Consulting LLC

This month is a busy one and I'm late to my own party!  With the winding down of the school year in the U.S. and lots of exciting opportunities that gave rise to articles for others, the month has slipped past me and it is soon coming to a close.

I`d like to thank IAGC for including a Gruener Consulting article in their Spring Courier.  Tips for Supporting Executive Functioning at School and Home was included in a comprehensive online newsletter filled with lots of good information.  Those articles can be found here:  http://www.iagcgifted.org/newsletters/2014-spring-courier.html?start=10  We also had a wonderful IAGC event in Algonquin focusing on the major 3:  perfectionism, intensity, and sensitivity.  Thanks to all who came and participated.  The Parent Seminar is scheduled for next Fall and we hope to have more roundtable discussions like the one in Algonquin in other areas.  If you would like to host a roundtable discussion at your school, please contact IAGC here: http://www.iagcgifted.org/contact-iagc.html

I'd also like to thank CGCC for including a Gruener Consulting article in their Spring Newsletter.  Tips for Parents of Young Gifted Children was included in their wonderful online newsletter at http://chicagogiftedcommunity.org/Resources/Documents/cgccnewslettervol2issue1.pdf

We've expanded counseling, therapy, and parenting services through Gruener Consulting and have a new website with more information http://czaweski.wix.com/gruenerconsultingllc

Without further ado, I'd like to open the party!

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~Welcome to the Parenting Gifted Children Party! ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

This Link-Up takes place May 19th-May 25th. 

You are more than welcome to share your favorite webpages about parenting gifted children (enrichment ideas too!) through the Link Tool during the party (look for the button at the end of this blog post).  If you are early, come back during the dates of the party and come back often!  If you missed the party, don't worry, we will have another one next month (every month on the second full week of the month). 

Any and all links related to parenting gifted children or enrichment for gifted children are welcome, with minor exceptions:
  • they cannot promote physical punishment
  • they are respectful of both parents and children

At the end of the week, the links will be shared on Pinterest at http://www.pinterest.com/gruenerconsults/2014-parenting-gifted-children-pin-parties/.

If this is your first time visiting the party, don't miss out on the goodies from the previous parties.  We started the monthly link-up parties in 2014.  Check out the Parenting Gifted Children Parties tab on the right of the page.  And please, share!

This will be the last monthly party until September 2014.  Feel free to post shares on the Gruener Consulting Facebook Page or Google Plus Page.